"I am Not a girl/boy...Not yet a woman/man"
You are now entering a transitional period which inevitably creates an identity gap between ..... who you think you are.?.... and what you really are.? This gap is mainly widened when your mind develops to move away from that childhood innocence....when you are rather shy about your father's advice and mother's goodnight kisses.
This breakaway is a movement to independence from a stage of dependency, characteristically from verifying before agreeing.... intense questioning and even to extreme levels of disobedience to your parents and superiors.
You are caught in the middle of this.. for example, you want to go hang- out with your friends....Do I need to get permission from mum or dad...no.. no ...no I think I am matured enough to now make my own decisions.
Despite the fact that you make an independent decision deep within you there's conflict about the integrity and morality in that decision. There's always an element of uncertainty you feel about your own decisions.
Psychological and biological desires too are taking a significant change. This is very prominent in your romantic relationships. The aggressiveness of romantic involvements and sexual desires that are associated with it can take you to the extents of losing your moral values. You can be rebellious in your relationships with your parents and surroundings in submission to meet these desires.
Now, you yearn for recognition, attention in your social surroundings. You want to be noticed....paying a lot of attention to make you look good in your physical form... pretty, handsome, modern. With thoughts of drawing attention you may behave rather chaotically, clownishly or even disrespectfully.
Most of these behaviours are unintentional and are triggered not by a predetermined mindset ... but more by instinctual and impulsive response.
Attempting to block these changes in thinking and behaviour completely can be very detrimental . The important thing here is not let it flow without control....if you let it go, you are regressing to your infant stage where you freely behaved without the power of being conscious about your consciousness or thinking about your own thinking.
ESTABLISH YOUR INTENTIONS
Behind every thought is an intention. If you set up your intentions right.... your thoughts will shift accordingly.
You can set up your intentions with your autonomous will and choice which is the greatest gift that you live with. Without a strong intention your mind is as free as a feather in the autumn winds, it will sway hither and thither making good use of this liberty.
An adolescent without purposeful, meaningful intentions is like a child let loose on a highway...anything can happen.
Your Autonomous choice.... your will... and your intentions are your controlling devices. Although your mind will try to instinctually or spontaneously be moved into a certain direction ....... your already set strong intentions will discipline your behaviour.
Set your intentions right.
"WHAT YOU INTEND YOU BECOME." certainly true.