In my life I have ruined 99% of the good deeds I have done just by one act of stupidity. This incompleteness has led me towards enormous pain. There are times I have wondered how all the good I have done can go down the drain due to just one act of stupidity, that is [...]

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The Hardworking Lazy Man

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In my life I have ruined 99% of the good deeds I have done just by one act of stupidity. This incompleteness has led me towards enormous pain. There are times I have wondered how all the good I have done can go down the drain due to just one act of stupidity, that is bound to permanently remain in someone’s heart and mind. The nature of people is to see black over white. You may have eaten delicious watalappam many a times, yet what remains in your mind is the unpalatable one you ate.

Human beings by nature contemplate on the one percent of mistakes you make forgetting the 99% of good you do. If this is the norm, then it is futile to weep and yell at moments of rejection, saying that they have forgotten all the good you have done for them. Even the tastiest icing cake will have less meaning if you find some mouse droppings on top of it. You would not be able to retain good memories of your daughter’s wedding if you consumed alcohol excessively, threw up and dropped down on the floor. There are a few instances that I have destroyed the happiness of the moment, at one time when my wife had worked so hard for a function that was held, I made an unnecessary comment saying that the rice she cooked was soggy or something very minor of that sort, somehow I ruined the entire happiness she was enjoying with all the lovely compliments she received from the visitors for many other things.

A few years back, my son Joshua used to come to me with his record book in very high spirits, as he has scored very well in all the main subjects, sadly my eyes kept looking at the subjects that he has scored comparatively less, even though they are all secondary subjects. Just where your wound is, so are your nails. I then start to talk bad about his low scores instead of appreciating the effort he has taken to achieve all the other good scores. You must put in an effort to make someone happy, even though you can make a person unhappy effortlessly. For many, appreciation is an effort though discrimination is natural and ignited automatically.

Once you make someone unhappy and make them feel bad, however much you tend to revert the situation, great damage has already taken place. Is it possible to recover a curry that has turned bad back to its original state? It is impossible to do so even with a countless number of reworks and repairs using many tactics such as adding flavours and enhancing it with spices. I have let all my hard work go down the drain just because of my laziness, by not attending the most important occasions of my children.

I have deeply regretted over them and made a firm decision to attend to all their sentimental functions in the future. Just imagine if a father who has looked after his daughter with utmost love and affection from birth until she reached a good young age but was unable to attend to her graduation, just because of an important business meeting he had. There are circumstances in life which you could reschedule and some that you cannot reschedule at any cost. There are instances when the ability of making the decision is yours and then there are those that are out of your control.

If you neglect an important event by participating in another event that you had the ability to reschedule, then the regret you feel for missing an important sentimental event can never be reverted. Even those whom you love and are near and dear to you are prone not to talk about your commitment, hard work, sacrifice and untiring efforts, yet they will certainly talk about and deeply root forever the fact that you did not attend your daughter’s graduation.

There are times when the pressures of life are so much so that you feel like just compromising the quality of the lifestyle you have been living. However, the minute of comfort you gain by compromising your values are incomparable in comparison to the loss of reputation you are going to bear. You are indeed safe if you are walking on the pavement with your eyes well fixed on the vehicles that are driving towards your direction than walking the other way round, facing the same direction as the passing vehicles. If you do so you would never know until a vehicle comes and hits you from behind.

Compromising is a dangerous poison that can lead you towards a disastrous life. A life with uncompromised values will never leave a hole that can leak away the peace and happiness you have within you. If your gates are firmly closed, stray dogs cannot enter your garden.  If a young man opens the gate to his mind by watching pornography, he will never know when he will end up with a prostitute. A monkey may be small in size but in case you set it free with your wardrobe open, it will definitely ruin your clothes in no time.

On many occasions it is the smallest thing that paves the way to a massive destruction. After a lengthy period of being sober, a friend of mine offered me a glass of wine which I vehemently refused as I knew that compromising my sobriety for a glass of wine would appear next with a glass of beer and then with a glass of whiskey and then finally it will move towards the mass destruction of heroin as my system already knows the taste of all this. If you have tested the best, your five senses will never settle for less, whenever the opportunity to choose is given.

This is the reason why a life of compromised values are essential for a person to become a success, if not you will be like a clay pot with a hole. Whatever you fill into it will not remain with you as you have a hole that leaks. Have you ever compromised on certain values and made holes in yourself that drains your happiness away from you? Well, I am not embarrassed to say I have done it many times.

Do not become a hardworking lazy man, the moment you choose to be lazy might be the moment you ought to work at your best. All your hard work will become worthless as a result of the laziness you felt at that very moment. Sometimes, you have all the time in the world for your friends, yet you find it extremely difficult to find time for your family. After a day of hard work you run to the bar just as a mad dog runs after its bone, whereas you should be crazily running towards your family. Some of my friends who come on vacation to Sri Lanka spend colossal amounts of money on prostitution.

For some, the day after receiving the salary is a completely new day, but for the wise, all the days of the month are the same. A month is a journey of thirty (30) days which you need to plan accordingly. You cannot compromise your monthly goals to attain the pleasure that lasts for two days. Some people value the two days of pleasure more than the pain of suffering during the remaining twenty-eight (28) days. Are you not in need of living the entire month happily with your loved ones? Or do you choose to selfishly indulge in the pleasure of just two days.

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