Discounting You Based on How Others Label You
View(s):As you step into a supermarket, you can see the names of the products that are labelled by the manufacturers of the products based on what the item is and what it can do. The manufacturer or the owner of the product is the one and only entity that has the authority to label the product. However, it is indeed sad to see people living unsuccessful and miserable lives based on the labels that others give them. The consumer cannot discount a product; it is only the manufacturer who could do it. Yet again, it is so sad to see many people discount their potential based on the labels that others have given to them.
I was labelled a loser, procrastinator and destroyer who is good for nothing. When I began the second inning of my life with only a tattered twenty rupee note in my ragged blue jeans. I refused to define myself based on the labels that others pasted on me. Instead, I began labeling myself as a winner, an achiever and an intelligent person who will one day become a role model to many. Whenever I talked about my aspirations, they were always taken as a joke. Yet, I did not accept the labels the people attempted to tag on me.
Every time the society gave me a wrong label, I refused it the very moment I heard it. As I know that the more you hear the same song, the more the tendency to end up humming the song subconsciously. As a life coach, I get the opportunity to speak to many people and I find that most of them have defined themselves based on the labels that others have given them. Why do you want to define yourself based on others labels? Why not define yourself based on your true potential and on who you really want to be.
When I began the second inning of my life, I picturised a beautiful three story mansion in my mind as my future home. The society said that I do not even have a penny to scratch my back yet I carry bogus and unrealistic dreams. I refused to buy their labels. I continued to work towards my dreams. One fine day when I posted a beautiful picture of my three story mansion on my FB, the very same people who attempted to label me as a loser and a curse, commented so highly about my achievement. Therefore, I urge my readers not to store yourself with the negative definitions that people try to label you with. We must write our own life story. We should not allow a third party to write our life story based on the limited information they possess about us.
Talking to your own self is a very powerful psychological tool. Training your mind gates to shut themselves whenever anyone throws a negative comment at you is also another powerful psychological tool that you must practice. I practice both these tactics concurrently as its impact is higher only then. Keep your gates locked for barking stray dogs and in the meantime keep on feeding and grooming your own dog. So that one day the stray dog will stop barking at you and leave you alone, once they realise that you have a powerful dog inside your house. If you focus on the barking of the stray dog outside the gate you are sure to forget to feed your own dog and your dog may pay for it with its life.
The question that I am presenting to you today is, what is your goal in life? Is it to grow or to decline? Be highly ambitious about yourself unto a level that you do not have time even to pay attention to others who label you. You are what you feed yourself. If you feed yourself stress arousing thoughts, you will ultimately become stressed out. If you are feeding yourself inspiring thoughts, you will always be inspired.
The highest form of inspiration one must possess should come from within your own self. This is the reason why the biggest battle is from within. The first chapter of my book “The Art of Bouncing Back” is written on “Your Greatest Enemy is You”. Therefore, your focus must be on developing yourself on a constant basis. We see how the next generation is giving up life so easily. Life is certainly beautiful if you choose to be happy, similarly life can become miserable if you choose to be miserable.
I have chosen to be happy at every single minute in my life and I have vehemently decided that my five senses are not trash bins for people to dump garbage in as and when they want to. I have realised that I am a fertile ground hence, fruit bearing seeds should be planted in me. I meditate on my labels and not on the labels that others offer to me. At least ten times a day I tell myself that I am a winner and I will conquer every battle I face. I keep on reminding myself who I am and that helps me to reject whatever others may say about me.
This is the reason I tell parents that you must never tell your children “this child is a fool”, “this child is useless”, “this child is good for nothing”. Those labels when heard constantly overtime will deposit in their mind store and every time they face a challenge or pressure, their subconscious will throw those labels at them and make them feel inferior. You must speak and whisper positivity to your children so that their brains will label them in their subconscious and whenever they face a battle that positivity will inspire them to move forward. You must spend a reasonable amount of time coaching your mind and it is actually an art. Just think for a moment, if you are spending more than an hour to build your physical muscles then how much more time should you invest on building the muscles in your mind? Just alike physical exercises, there are mind exercises that will extend the capacity of your brain.
Just as you would faint when your body is not strong, so will you faint if you are hunted by worry, fear, anxiety and depression when your mind is not strong. If you allow your emotions to make decisions, then your brain would be accustomed to making emotional decisions. Being empathetic is a very good quality, yet being carried away with emotions is not a good stance to be especially in front of life’s situations. Therefore, label yourself as a winner, a courageous personality, an achiever, a creative personality and a role model who constantly continues on improving those qualities.
In order for you to become who you label yourself, you need to go through a concurrent process of your thoughts, words and actions. All three aspects must be aligned with each other alongside the labels that you present to define yourself. There are a lot of deceptive Teaching going on in the world such as “you are what you speak” hence, people keep on uttering “I am Rich-I am Rich” from morning till night with no accurate understanding that in order for a plant to bear fruit they must be watered, fertilised, pruned as well as many other grooming techniques are required.
Just by viewing the plant every morning and night and stating “this plant will have plenty of harvest” is not going to help in harvesting fruit. Some people read a page of motivation and success every day. Yet, they remain as utter failures as their words do not align with their thoughts and actions. Merely looking at yourself in the mirror and stating that you are going to become a doctor would not help you to become one unless you commit yourself and meditate on what you have learnt about medicine in order to keep on practicing medicine.
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