The exceptional success of the second chapter in my life has given me an insight of how many people have become my enemies and how many are attempting to pull me back to stop me from reaching greater heights. They do not try to do so because I have done anything wrong to them but [...]

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The exceptional success of the second chapter in my life has given me an insight of how many people have become my enemies and how many are attempting to pull me back to stop me from reaching greater heights. They do not try to do so because I have done anything wrong to them but because of the pure jealousy they have about my extravagant success. This is a natural sight especially in developing countries like ours where there is a wide socio-economic class differentiation gap that jealousy has become the consoling route to justify their failures.

Sometime back an elderly sister known to my wife tried her very best to stop our marriage by discriminating my character merely based on my past. She had vehemently advised my wife that I am not a good match for her. As I was honest to my wife about my past since the inception of our relationship, my wife has told that sister that she is well aware of my past and it is irrelevant to her and all that matters to her is not my past but the extraordinary comeback and my courageous present. Likewise, if you are a successful character or a righteous person then there will be plenty of people who will try to fabricate stories out of the jealousy,  they have towards you and your children.

Unfortunately, many people get caught in the tactics aroused by outrageously jealous fires, thus they enter into a battle that they should never have stepped into. You cannot make a beautiful design from black on a black canvas. If you wish to reduce the darkness in it, you cannot do it by further adding black into it, you should paint it with more contrasting colours until your idea rules out the power of black. .

Jealousy is formed out of pride. Whenever you witness someone having something that you do not have, that is when your ego rushes up to push you down mentally before that person’s achievements. When you feel inferior towards someone, the seeds of jealousy can sprout, especially when you continuously give space in your mind to contemplate that person’s success. The sapling of jealousy grows into a large tree. Today, if you communicate with ten people, nine out of them will talk about what others have done in order to destroy this country and not about how they have contributed or what they could do to develop this country. If you permit your pride to take control over your actions whilst someone else’s pride tries to attack you, do you ever think that one’s pride would surrender to the other person’s pride.

Pride by nature is not willing to surrender itself, unless otherwise it sees a rough situation of life and death. There are people whose level of pride is extremely high, that they do not even shut down in a life and death situation. Pride needs to breathe pride for a living. Pride cannot live without being proud. The moment you attempt to humble someone who is exceptionally proud, he might literally die mentally. Your mind is like a roaring lion that can constantly knock on your mind gates until it finds the food it requires. A lion that consumes heavily on meat will certainly throw a fit if you try to feed them with a vegetable salad.

If pride is what you have been feeding your mind continuously then it will expect the same food even at the moment you try to teach it to humble itself. It will obviously create a huge battlefield within the mind where you have constantly fought with. Your greatest enemy is none other than yourself. Therefore, you must understand that a fire cannot be distinguished with fire, it can only be done through a substance that is completely against the nature and characteristics of fire.

In 1996 when I was in Australia, I witnessed a series of cricket matches between Australia and Sri Lanka. One of the key fighting strategies the Australian team followed apart from their cricketing skills was deploying a psychological battle with our players, knowing clearly the mindset of the people of developing countries. They knew very well that if they could destabilize us mentally then they could very easily defeat us. Yet, Arjuna Ranatunga did not go ahead to paint a black design on the black canvas. Instead, he painted it with cooling and soothing white, with a well-focused and unwavering mindset which helped us to come out victorious at the finals of the World Cup. If you allow the enemy to take control of the central processing unit of your mind then you are certain to lose the battle. It is important to be conscious at the battlefield, if not you may use the wrong fighting strategy on your enemy.

There are two options that you are left with whenever an external enemy attacks you. First is to ignore it after evaluating if it is worth fighting for or not. Many battles in life should be ignored unless it is to do with the existence of you and your loved ones. Many people get into unnecessary battles just because another yelled at them in filth or discriminated against them or hurt their feelings. Only a fool will fight with a fool. The wise always ignore the fool. You do not bark back at a dog that barks at you, because you are aware that it is a dog and that you are a human more superior than a dog. Therefore, coming into the realisation of who you are and who your enemy is, is very important in deciding if it is worth fighting or if you must ignore.

The second option is to fight, but not with fire over fire. While I was working as a marketing manager for a famous company in Sri Lanka there were so many people who attempted to pull me back because I was performing very well, yet the virtuous Chairman loved me a lot as I was very hard working. I refused to fight with what they were fighting against such as discrimination, bad wrapping, gossiping, setting false traps and creating conflicts. I considered them as methods that were followed by terrorists and not real patriotic war heroes. Also, I was aware that I am a superior minded man hence, I should not use the cowardly weapon of the inferior.

Therefore, instead of painting the black canvas in black again, I decided to make a design with white on the black canvas by working really hard to further improve my performance, so that their blunt weapons will become even more blunt, null and powerless. During my time, the brand reached greater heights. I was promoted and my enemies gave up. But what if I chose to fight the fire with fire, then none of us will win, moreover I will lose my focus.

Remember that the motive of the enemy is to somehow involve you in a territory of the battlefield where you are weak and uncomfortable that it makes you panic and faint from within your mind. Learn to be calm before a fire. If you panic you are sure to lose your conscience, if you lose your conscience you will certainly lose your direction. This entire life is a battle and how you captivate your thoughts are based on who has control over the battle. If destructive thoughts are in control you cannot acquire mastership over your mind.

Hence, it is important to live a constantly conscious life, as from time to time the battles we face may attempt to deceive us with our own aspirations. As you wake up in the morning with your aspirations and go back to bed at night with your aspirations, walk in between your aspirations as sometimes dreams may lean when they are confronted with severe attacks. It is essential that we refuel our dreams and teach our children to refuel their dreams as well even though the challenges are tough. Get over the corruptive system and live with a clean heart and clean hands, so that you will be happy about the food you feed your children that you have bought out of the money you have earned with clean hands and a clean heart.

We were always very happy when we did not have much money and so are we even when we have everything we desire for. You need to identify who your enemy is and how you must approach it. Having defined a wrong enemy as well as fighting the right enemy with the incorrect armoury both will lead you to a miserable state where there is no peace of mind but an extremely disturbed mind with heavily cluttered disturbing thoughts.

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