| Dear
Coz
Dear Ever Lonely (Letter withheld on request),
You can call him by all means but I feel it would be at the risk
of hurting yourself again. Whatever the reason, he has moved on.
I feel it is through no fault of yours. Stop blaming yourself and
running yourself down. He used you as a sounding board to unburden
himself. Maybe even to spark an interest in you towards him, and
thinking it didn’t work out he has moved on. Someone who considers
himself a good friend will somehow keep in touch. Move on; he has
and so can you. You’ve got a job and plenty of people who
will be your friends if you just give them a chance. Get yourself
involved in activities that interest you. You will have more opportunities
to meet people with similar interests. Above all, hold your head
high. You are special and if the guy doesn’t realize that,
it’s his loss.
Dear
Coz,
I’m a 17-year-old boy. I met her at a tuition class.
I haven’t even smiled but I want her to know how much I love
her. She is a Muslim and I’m a Sinhalese so I’m afraid
about that. My parents will never accept her. Coz, help me. I don’t
want to lose her.
N.P
Dear
N.P,
You seem to be aware of the problems. Do you still want
to go ahead and ask her? However much you like her, those problems
will not go away. It will only escalate if you start an affair with
her. Why invite trouble for both of you? Let it go however hard
it may seem.
Dear
Coz,
I’m a 23-year-old Muslim girl in love with a Tamil
guy. He works at an Acupuncture clinic. I have spoken to him about
my problems since I’m a patient there. He seems to be around
35 years, and is handsome and smart. How can I tell him that I love
him? I don’t know whether he has a girl friend or whether
he loves me. I feel shy to tell him about my feelings. How can I
win his heart? I want to share my life with him. I hope he contacts
me if he reads this. I can’t get him out of my mind. Please
help me.
Broken girl
Dear
Broken girl,
I hope he sees this and things work out for you but let’s
be realistic. There’s every chance that he maybe married with
kids. If not, he maybe restricted from forming personal relationships
with his patients. You can always approach him directly and ask
him out but I cannot predict the outcome. Is it possible that you
are attracted to this man because you can confide in him and that
he listens? Think about it before you make a move.
Dear
Coz,
She is the sweetest and smartest girl I have ever seen.
I can’t forget her, she is always on my mind, even in my dreams.
I met her on March 27. I used to follow her after work. After that
month she gave up her job and stayed at home. I feel so sad. I heard
that she is in Colombo at the moment following a course in computer
programming. I will go mad if I don’t see her soon. I haven’t
spoken to her but she knows me. I had to follow her because when
I see her I forget the whole world. I wrote to her a few months
ago to tell her that she was the sweetest. Is it all right for me
to speak to her and tell her how I feel or shouldn’t I worry
the poor girl?
Lost heart - Ruwan
Dear
Lost heart - Ruwan,
Ever thought that you should have asked her out in the first place
without following her like a stalker? You maybe the reason she gave
up her job. She and her family members may have feared for her safety.
If you are really serious about her what’s preventing you
from speaking to her or her parents regarding your intentions? All
this following around will only make her resent and fear you.
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