21st January 2001
Weddings - the do's, dont's and all you need to know
By Ruhanie Perera and Uthpala Gunethilake
Dress to thrillPerhaps more than anything else, it's the wedding dress which defines the bride. This is what Ramani Fernando says about choosing your wedding attire.
*The choices available to brides are unlimited today but when it comes to your wedding an element of tradition is very important, whatever may be in fashion at the time. The sari is draped in various drapes today and made-up saris are in vogue along with various types of embroidered saris.
*Fabric depends entirely on the individual. For example, a petite or slim figure would be best in organza, raw silk or silk. For a voluptuous figure very soft fabric like chiffon, gorgette will be very flattering.
*Colours also depend on your complexion. White is good for those with fair skin, and colours like off-white, champagne and gold are for darker skin
*It's important that the accessories -shoes, jewellery, the headress and boquet- all compliment the outfit. Jewellery should be kept to the minimum and not overbearing.
*Make sure the retinue is dressed simply since the bride is the most
Get the lookYour wedding is the day when you specially want to look your best. These tips by Ramani Fernando may be helpful.
*You have to see your hairdresser and beautician early enough to make necessary appointments. If you have problem skin you have to attend to it 3-4 months before the wedding. It should be treated with professionally done clean-ups. If your skin has severe acne problems it's best to see a skin specialist as early as possible.
*If you have facial hair and hair on arms and legs, these should be removed by waxing or threading quite early because you can't take chances with any reactions or irritations. It greatly enhances your appearance to have unwanted hair removed and eyebrows shaped.
*If you usually don't wear make-up, have a trial early and make yourself comfortable with the look.
*Decide on your hairstyle with your hairdresser early and if it's going to be put up, have a few trials. If it's to be worn down, get your hair cut and shaped or re-styled two weeks earlier, so that hair will look its best around the time of the wedding. If you are getting any chemical treatments done, such as perms and straightening, these should be done 2-3 weeks before so that it gives hair time to settle.
*If you are overweight, go on a diet and excercise, and do your utmost to get in shape for the big day, since you'll want to look your best on your wedding day.
*Without good carriage and posture you looks will be lost. Carrying yourself well is essential for your clothes to look good. The bride and the retinue should be ready at least three hours before the ceremony and it's important that you take the photographs before the ceremony, since you'll look your best at this time.
*Make sure that at your wedding you don't take on too many responsibilities
and become a nervous wreck in the end. Delegate responsibilities and and
make sure that you are calm and collected; this always makes a bride radiant.
Plans and PreparationsToday you find more couple coming to the forefront to arrange their own wedding. To them the more convenient option is to hand over the preparations to 'wedding co-ordinators' equipped for such occasions.
At the Taj Samudra the 'Banquet Department' in keeping with this trend, sees to all the arrangements from the moment the 'bride and groom-to-be' step into their office till they whizz off on their honeymoon. Some suggestions offered by their executives...
It's best to start planning for the wedding 6-8 months before the date. Some people book almost a year ahead.This is impractical since no one is really sure of the time so early. Especially in Sri Lanka where 'auspicious times' are very important, it's best to finalise that before making reservations.
If families are involved in the planning, we encourage the couple to come along with their parents when making the arrangements for the wedding. So that the plans ultimately made suit both the couple and their parents.
Other than the hiring of a hall, we also provide all other services in connection with the event. Planning of menus, attending to decorations and flower arrangements, hiring of a band and a photographer are all handled by the hotel.
New ideas or special themes are always accomodated. Couples can choose from the set menus and hotel interior decorators, photographers and bands, or they can make their suggestions and we will make the necessary arrangements in accordance with the couple's ideas.
Additional arrangements that vary according to the type of wedding (i.e. Buddhist, Catholic, Muslim, Hindu, etc) are also handled by the banquet department.
Some couples come with very innovative ideas and we do our level best to see these ideas through. For example if it were a 'Sri Lankan' theme the staff will be appropriately dressed and the decorations will also be in keeping with the theme.
Outdoor wefddings are very popular among couples today. Our north lawn is perfect for that occasion, the only hitch being our country's irregular weather patterns.
Although the couple would like to have many people with them on their
wedding day, their guests also need to be comfortable. Seating arrangements
need to be made taking into consideration the space needed for the band
and the dancefloor. Two weeks before the wedding all arrangements must
be finalised. From that point onwards we advise against a change of plans.
With the finalised list of arrangements the hotel staff then coordinate
in order to ensure that all plans are carried out smoothly.
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