a bad day?
We’ve all had our share
of bad days, when everything we do just breaks apart at the seams.
Surprisingly, there are ways of making the most of bad days. N.
Dilshath Banu takes a closer look
It’s a day
when you got up from the wrong side of your bed. Suddenly you realise
that you are late to work, and rush to the bus stand without looking
to see if you’re leaving any important stuff behind. Somehow
you got in the bus to know that it’s the opposite direction
you’re heading. Going back again to the correct direction,
you wait to get to the office soon, but the tire goes flat half
way through. Now, you’re terribly late to work. And on that
very day, your boss calls you and says, “You’re Fired.”
And the whole day goes in the same rhythm. Worst of all, you realise
that no one is with you, when you need to cheer up.
happens to all of us; a day when everything you do goes wrong at
a certain point. Sometimes, it’s really horrible and scary
to face such a devastating day when you are really down and things
are not at all smooth. And often we label these days ‘bad
days’. Some believe that bad days are inevitable. Some say
that bad days have something to do with our destiny. On the contrary,
some don’t believe in bad days at all!!
(22) says, “I believe there are bad days in life. If I were
faced with a bad day, I would probe into what went wrong on that
particular day. If I can make it right, then next time things may
work out well. But in certain cases, you are not responsible for
the misfortune. For example, on such a day even if you come early
you may still never catch the bus on time. You are not responsible
for such a thing and shouldn’t feel guilty about it or blame
others for it. If I have a bad day today, I hope for a better one
tomorrow, where everything would work well for me.”
(23) says that a bad day depends on what we are doing. “If
I am facing a bad day, I’ll try to be very patient and not
feel fatigued. I’ll also try to go to church, listen to music
or read a book.”
old Jayanath says that he has no ‘bad days’ in life!
“I don’t have bad days, but there are some unfortunate
moments when I feel like things are not moving in the right direction.
Sometimes, in office, I’ll try to work hard to produce my
best projects and they may not be selected for implementation.
at the end of the day, it may seem like I didn’t do anything.
At such times things get so tough. I may wonder what went wrong
and next time, I’ll try to make it right.”
Dinithi says that for her good days are “Thursdays”
and there’s no particular day for bad days. She added that
during a bad day, she may cover herself and hide from the world
and hope for a better tomorrow.
Tara (20), staying at home and doing nothing counts for a bad day.
“I’ll try to do something during that time; sometimes
I read or do what I like, to make it a good day.”
Shanuki* says that she used to feel very bad when her mother screamed
at her early morning, as it’ll turn out to be a real ‘bad
day’ for her. “But now things are different. When my
mother screams I don’t take it so much into my mind. I try
and figure out what I did wrong and then move on. I don’t
think about it over and over again and make mistakes all day. It’s
just one isolated incident, that’s all. I think if you think
this way, you will not have bad days, but you can call them bad
moments in your life. Then you don’t have to waste a whole
day for that moment.”
you face unusual happenings, like missing the bus, getting blasted
by your boss, don’t label them as ‘bad’. These
are events in life. Whether it’s good or bad, it depends on
how we relate to the situation. There’s no such day as a bad
day, it’s you who decide whether it is a bad day or a good
day,” says Dr. Asoka N. Jinadasa, Strategic Planner/ Senior
PR Consultant in Rowland PR adding, “As explained before,
there are no bad days, but it’s the attitude and the interpretations
you give to the particular event. Life consists of events, and we
interpret them in different ways.”
Dr. Jinadasa, “When we lose our purse or face a misfortune
in the morning, a lot of us programme that day as a bad day. What
should be done during such events is to think about what we can
do next. For example, if you lose your purse in the morning, we
have to think about what the next step is – i.e. what you
can do about it and then make a full stop. Rather than branding
it as a ‘bad beginning’ of another bad day, you can
change your thoughts.”
days are days when everything happens comfortably and you are in
your comfort zone. Good days wouldn’t challenge you, but bad
days stretch your mind beyond boundaries and challenge you,”
emphasises Dr. Jinadasa.
you notice, many champions always try to play with someone superior
to them in order to stretch their abilities. If an athlete would
compete with inferior people, and win the game, it’s not going
to get him anywhere. He’s not a champion. It’s the tough
things you do that will help you realise your full potential. It’s
the same case with weight lifters. You may not see them lifting
lightweights. They try their best to lift heavy weights to see how
far they can go,” says Dr. Jinadasa, adding, “Those
who want to empower themselves love bad days, as it gives them opportunities.
You can never make an ocean if you are not allowing the loss of
a side of the shore. Those who never have bad days, never learn,
are never mentally strong and they’ll never achieve great
heights,” he said.
Dr. Jinadasa says, “If you have a bad day, celebrate it (What???).
Tell your friends you had a bad day and make fun of it and say how
great you feel. It’s like saying, “You know, today I
missed the bus and I am having a bad day. I feel great.” Focus
on the fact that it’s a matter of changing your thoughts.
However, he admits that you cannot laugh if you break your leg or
some horrible thing happens to you. But what’s important is,
what you are going to do about the matter and then thinking about
the next step.
we learn from now on is that bad days become good days, and good
days can be considered bad days, as good days never challenge you.
Bad days take you to horizons you never thought you could reach.
So for the rest of you who love bad days, I wish you a… Happy
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