are you waiting for?
By N.Dilshath Banu
Early morning, you rush to the
bus stand. But the bus never arrives on time. Then you wait…
At the restaurant, your friend doesn’t turn up on time. Then
you wait…The day is boring. Then you wait... Think about how
many times you have been waiting – waiting for a break, waiting
to sleep, waiting to call someone, waiting to get over a meeting
and sometimes… waiting for nothing. Frustration builds up.
The next moment, you lose self control and hit out at the wrong
if the time spent waiting could be used in a productive manner.
You wouldn’t have to yearn that a day extends more than 24
hours. Some say waiting equals wasting. For others waiting equals
pleasure. Yet most of us do try to keep ourselves occupied during
such waiting time, as we are told not to waste a minute as time
and tide waits for no man.
Geraldine says that while waiting she usually reads books. “If
I see someone I know, I’ll talk to them. But it all depends
on the situation and what time it is. Sometimes, I SMS my friends.
If we’re waiting for a moment, we don’t have to bother
about reading, but if it’s a considerable period of time,
I really would consider using that time in a meaningful manner,”
(23) says, “I keep some books with me if I am stuck with time
on my hands. Most of the time we think waiting is a waste of time.
But I think we can also use this time for meditation or just to
look around what’s happening. It depends on the individual.”
20-year-old Prasanna, ‘waiting’ begins when he’s
travelling by bus to office. “During this time I just think
of what I am going to do in the office and mentally plan the day.
Or sometimes try to figure out if I have forgotten something. In
that case, I may seek alternative ways to solve the problem if I
have really forgotten something and can’t get it back.”
adds that if he really has nothing to do, then he’ll think
about whom he really has forgotten to keep in touch with and call
them and update them on what’s happening in his life.
(21) from Kandy says that usually, when she’s travelling by
train, she passes the time by reading. If she gets bored she looks
outside to take in the view. However, she says that it is very hard
to do the same when she’s waiting for the bus.
Vihanga, uses different tactics on different occasions. “Colours
strike me a lot. So I try to see what kind of colours people wear
and if I like them, I’ll admire them. The other thing I love
to do is to look around and figure out if I can see someone I know
passing by. If I like that person, I may go ahead and have a chat.
If that person is annoying, I may avoid the person.”
are two conditions existing within us. One is ‘being’
and the other is ‘doing’. Children love the state of
‘being’ as against that of ‘doing’. But
when we grow up, we change. We hate just ‘being’ and
love ‘doing’,” says Dr. Asoka N. Jinadasa, Strategic
Planner/Senior PR consultant at Rowland PR.
Jinadasa says that time spent ‘waiting’ could be a magical
opportunity for being. It is a state of relaxing, not doing anything.
You should make that time to keep in touch with yourself. When you
are ‘being’, you are close in contact with your subconscious
mind, helping to gain peace of mind.
Dr. Jinadasa, “The left side of the brain is the analytic
part. And the right side of the brain is the creative part. We are
so used to be analytic that we have programmed ourselves to focus
on doing something all the time. Most of us are living a robotic
lifestyle. Creativity, however, comes through just ‘being’.
When we are engaged with ‘doing’, we are forcing ourselves
to focus on one particular matter and not allowing the mind to be
creative. Being creative helps you to keep in touch with yourself,
your mind and to see the world around you.”
have to understand that today is not the extension of tomorrow.
We don’t know what tomorrow will be. At some point, we have
to keep away from thinking analytically and start to think intuitively.
People who achieve lot of things in life, balance their life with
various activities like taking a walk, riding a bike etc., which
are often called useless things!” emphasised Dr. Jinadasa.
Jinadasa adds that to use these particular periods of time there
is no such thing as ‘how you should do it’.” Because
when you plan, you are doing something, not ‘being’,
he said. However, he says that there could be activities like deep
breathing, relaxing etc., which sometimes could lead to a state
you are ‘being’, you are in contact with your intuitive
mind. And you get lots of creative ideas at that time. The intuitive
mind whispers into your ear. And non-judgmental awareness enters
your mind. So instead of grumbling about the wasting time by waiting,
be creative. It’s all in the mind,” says Dr. Jinadasa.
reminded us that there was more to life than increasing its speed.
The art of living is not merely to look, but to see; not merely
to listen, but to hear; not merely to experience, but to enjoy.
Few of us have many great days in life. Think about it!