Think long and
Confused 20, (Letter withheld on request)
Just because he's a foreigner,
you can't brand him as 'bad'. Likewise, just by one or two letters
you can't really judge a person. If you pursue this, you might one
day have to settle down in his country. Are you willing to make
such a commitment? Think about it long and hard. Still feel you
want to go ahead? Then discuss this with your family. That's the
best solution. After all, if your answer is 'yes' to this guy, you'll
have to tell them one fine day. It might as well be now.
I'm a boy of 17. Last year, I went to a tuition class and met
a girl. Then we became good friends. After the exam, I phoned her
every week. Now I've fallen in love. I know she doesn't have a boyfriend
and she doesn't want to have one. I can't think of a life without
her. But I'm scared to tell her about my love. What can I do?
Your letter did not reach me on
time, so please forgive me for my rather late reply. Why not continue
to be friends? Get to know each other. When she realises what a
great guy you are, you'll be the first person on her mind when she
decides she wants a boyfriend. Who knows, she might even fall in
love with you. Don't rush things, you'll only scare her away.
I'm a 16-year-old girl. I have a boyfriend aged 18. He is also
from my school. He told me that I'm his first love but I've heard
from two younger boys that he had another girlfriend earlier. I
didn't want to believe it, so I asked my boyfriend about her. He
told me that she is his neighbour and a friend. He took it as a
joke but I was serious. Please Coz, tell me what to do? I really
don't know whether he has another girlfriend or not. I'm so frightened,
I don't want to lose him as he's my first love. I love him very
A relationship depends on trust. I wouldn't believe each and
every rumour you hear. Why not ask him to introduce you to this
girl. If she's just a friend, that shouldn't be too much of a problem.
You can always say that you want to get to know her as a friend
too. Talk things out. It always helps. Explain to him how you feel
without offending him. I'm sure he'll understand.
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