When two become one
By Ash
“My love as deep: the more I give to thee.” These are lines from Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet. As romantic as they sound, what about the realistic thinking of the 21st century? Where does one draw the line in “giving”? The question is do we lose ourselves in the process?

The reason this particular topic crossed my mind was because of some behavioural patterns I observed in my female friends who are dating. Of course I do not speak for the entire community but my focus is on teenage girls who are in love.

Let’s take a few examples, shall we? Every conversation with your dating gal pal, regardless of politics, business or music ends up with something her boyfriend said, did or ate. And the elements of mathematics in love these days, Girlfriend plus Boyfriend equals one person, one personality and one view (quite a political statement). So much so that one party does not make a public appearance at functions or outings without the other.

So I wonder... do girls merge themselves so much into world of their boyfriends when they are dating that they forget themselves in the process? Forget their existence as an individual?

There are no written limits or boundaries when one is in love. However when commitments and compromises are made it is important to remember who you are as a person and not simply ignore it in the name of love.

The deep feelings of love cannot be determined by how much of yourself is lost in the relationship. Too many compromises or in other words too much ‘giving’ means changing yourself and that is eventually forgetting who you are. Ironic, isn’t it that it was Juliet from whom came the quotation I began with. Should we become Juliets of today?

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